Domestic Violence In Gay Relationships by Adrienne DeVita
Gay domestic violence is probably the most underrated of all social maladies. It is commonly assumed that a domestic violence scenario would have to necessarily involve an abuser who is male and a victim who is a young female, child, or elder citizen. This consistently excludes the zone of homosexual relationships for the obvious reason that the interaction here is man to man and woman to woman, where Mars and Venus do not interact.
So does the social malady of domestic violence depend on a heterosexual equation as is widely assumed? No. The surprising fact is that the percentage of domestic violence in homosexual relationships is higher than in heterosexual partnerships.
A gay alliance has its own dynamics which contributes to more stress than that experienced in a heterosexual union. Coming out of the closet takes tremendous courage, especially for a young person who has still not found his niche, and is dependent upon family support. Taking this enormous step often results in the loss of family, friends, and society. The gay person is seen as 'different' in more ways than one.
Homophobia takes various shapes; however, the end result is a kind of excommunication where the only form of support available is from the gay community itself. When gay couples decide to live together, again there is a public statement made that does not find approval with most of society.
When gay men enter an alliance, it would be safe to expect a fun Boy's Club situation where the party never ends. But statistics inform us that the violence in this relationship far exceeds any other in ferocity and frequency. Most cases of domestic violence against men are reported from gay relationships. It spreads across the whole violent spectrum of battering, stabbing, shooting, and assaulting sexually as well as emotionally.
The need to seize power and control of the other does not differentiate between the sexes. The patterns are similar to that found in heterosexual partnerships. The victim continues to live with the abuser; inexplicably enduring years of abuse until finally deciding to walk out, or is killed by the violence. The victim is also reluctant to use available agencies of help to charge the abuser and charge him with a domestic violence misdemeanor conviction. Ironically, here the victim is male, too. It has been noted that one of the highest causes of death in gay communities after AIDS and substance abuse, is domestic violence.
Now given the male preoccupation with power and control whether in heterosexual or gay relationships, it would seem that the ideal alliance would be the one between women, who are supposed to be the docile, peace loving, and submissive second sex. It is surprising, but true, that lesbian relationships have more than their share of violence than is attributed to them. Whether it is the stress of living in a homophobic society, or the daily pressures of living in a relationship, lesbian relationships are replete with verbal, emotional, and even physical violence.
While most domestic violence issues remain shut from the public eye till they have fermented beyond control, lesbian domestic violence rarely if ever finds the light of day. The main reason here is that the victim fears that she will not be taken seriously by a homophobic society. She truly feels isolated from the typical social machinery which other victims have recourse to use, and may not want to avail of the help afforded by heterosexual agencies. Voluntary agencies that exclusively shelter lesbian victims of domestic violence are non-existent.
This problem is faced by both gay and lesbian victims of domestic violence. They fear ridicule at the hands of the police, the judicial systems, and voluntary agencies which are the main outlets of help for other victims of domestic violence. Domestic violence law is based on a heterosexual perspective where the identities of the abuser and the abused are beyond doubt. In a gay domestic violence issue, it is very hard to see a man as a victim in a gay relationship, or a woman as a batterer in a lesbian relationship.
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Domestic Violence in Gay Relationships.
mercredi 31 octobre 2007
Pashmina Style
Pashmina Style by Brenda Reese
Just like the ubiquitous little black dress, pashmina is the staple in every fashionable woman's closet. In just about every fundraiser, wedding, gallery opening, evening gala, women brace the cold using their pashmina. When once this luxurious fabric was a status symbol by a select few, not virtually every woman has this distinctive accessory to their urban getup.
Some women are buying multiple shawls at a time, with embroidery, beading, or the latest fad to hit the town: graduated color. Women's fashion bibles, such as Redbook, InStyle, and Vogue have been touting the fabric since forever. Even Carrie Bradshaw, one of the fashionistas on HBO's now defunct Sex in the City, have been shot sporting one.
The secret of the pashmina lies in its luxurious feel, its softness and its warmth. It's also quite versatile and can be worn in just about any occasion. Pashmina can be also be worn at any time of the day, whether you simply want to lounge around at home, or you're watching your kids soccer game, or enjoying a hot cup of coffee on the lawn. However, although many people are just dying to adorn one, relatively few really know the tricks and tips of draping a Pashmina beautifully.
There are basically five different ways of wearing a pashmina. There's the full shawl wrap style, where we just have to wrap the pashmina around ourselves. There's also the belt style, which, as could be deduced from its name, just means wrapping the shawl around our hips. Third is the Hollywood style, which includes two differently-colored pashminas. There's also the pashmina stole and the noose wrap. The noose wrap can be achieved by folding the shawl lengthwise, while keeping the folded corner upwards, then by folding it in half along its width, and finally by placing the folded shawl behind our heads and pulling the open corner through the loop at the folded end.
So which style is right for you? Here are some handy tips to keep in mind:
Wearing a shawl or a stole depends on your height, the weather and your style preference. Generally, if you are less than 5"6, the shawl is the more recommended choice. It provides a luxurious, fuller look and more coverage than the stole. Additionally, while providing the same glamour to your look, the stole is narrower by about 8 inches, which is the perfect proportion for petite women. In warmer weather and climates, the stole is also the must-have accessory for woman under 5'6". Women over 5"6 may opt to go for the shawl. The shawl is bigger than the stole at 36 inches by 81, which is just enough fabric to wrap your frame. The shawl and stole can both be worn as mufflers.
In the end, no matter which style you go far, just wearing a pashmina already adds a touch of style and glamour to your look. Whether the shawl or stole is draped around your body or worn in style, the pashmina possesses a one-of-a-kind sheen that no other fabric can match. Indeed, the pashmina is the embodiment of style, glamour and elegance, and is the must-have apparel in every woman's attire.
About the Author
I'm not talented at anything that most people would call art; I do however love Pashmina Scarves. I work for a few fashion firms, specialising in Wholesale Pashmina.
Just like the ubiquitous little black dress, pashmina is the staple in every fashionable woman's closet. In just about every fundraiser, wedding, gallery opening, evening gala, women brace the cold using their pashmina. When once this luxurious fabric was a status symbol by a select few, not virtually every woman has this distinctive accessory to their urban getup.
Some women are buying multiple shawls at a time, with embroidery, beading, or the latest fad to hit the town: graduated color. Women's fashion bibles, such as Redbook, InStyle, and Vogue have been touting the fabric since forever. Even Carrie Bradshaw, one of the fashionistas on HBO's now defunct Sex in the City, have been shot sporting one.
The secret of the pashmina lies in its luxurious feel, its softness and its warmth. It's also quite versatile and can be worn in just about any occasion. Pashmina can be also be worn at any time of the day, whether you simply want to lounge around at home, or you're watching your kids soccer game, or enjoying a hot cup of coffee on the lawn. However, although many people are just dying to adorn one, relatively few really know the tricks and tips of draping a Pashmina beautifully.
There are basically five different ways of wearing a pashmina. There's the full shawl wrap style, where we just have to wrap the pashmina around ourselves. There's also the belt style, which, as could be deduced from its name, just means wrapping the shawl around our hips. Third is the Hollywood style, which includes two differently-colored pashminas. There's also the pashmina stole and the noose wrap. The noose wrap can be achieved by folding the shawl lengthwise, while keeping the folded corner upwards, then by folding it in half along its width, and finally by placing the folded shawl behind our heads and pulling the open corner through the loop at the folded end.
So which style is right for you? Here are some handy tips to keep in mind:
Wearing a shawl or a stole depends on your height, the weather and your style preference. Generally, if you are less than 5"6, the shawl is the more recommended choice. It provides a luxurious, fuller look and more coverage than the stole. Additionally, while providing the same glamour to your look, the stole is narrower by about 8 inches, which is the perfect proportion for petite women. In warmer weather and climates, the stole is also the must-have accessory for woman under 5'6". Women over 5"6 may opt to go for the shawl. The shawl is bigger than the stole at 36 inches by 81, which is just enough fabric to wrap your frame. The shawl and stole can both be worn as mufflers.
In the end, no matter which style you go far, just wearing a pashmina already adds a touch of style and glamour to your look. Whether the shawl or stole is draped around your body or worn in style, the pashmina possesses a one-of-a-kind sheen that no other fabric can match. Indeed, the pashmina is the embodiment of style, glamour and elegance, and is the must-have apparel in every woman's attire.
About the Author
I'm not talented at anything that most people would call art; I do however love Pashmina Scarves. I work for a few fashion firms, specialising in Wholesale Pashmina.
Trying Different Positions In Love Making For Steamy Sex With Your Lover Tonight
Trying Different Positions In Love Making For Steamy Sex With Your Lover Tonight by Crid Lee
When it comes to love making and sexual intercourse, no matter when and how you do it, it always has the same concept, which is to put the penis into a vagina and move it in and out until one partner gets an orgasm.
So how couples make their love making more interesting? Many couples like to mix up their sexual routines not by changing what they are doing but how they are doing it. In short, they change their sexual positions.
When trying out different positions in love making, you will be able to create the excitement and passion that are necessary for a steamy sex with your lover. Sometimes when couples are together for some time, they tend to stick to the same old boring positions again and again.
Do not be embarrassed to ask your partner to try out new sexual positions and techniques with you. Your partner will most likely be happy to try new things out with you if you just initiate it.
Therefore, it is very important for couples to always seek out new positions during love making so as to bring the passion back to the bedroom. Some of the sexual positions will be more stimulating for women, whereby some other positions will be more stimulating for men.
By constantly trying out different positions in love making, it will definitely bring you more exciting times with your partner in the future. If you need more love making positions, you can read up Kama Sutra, which consists of detailed illustrations of the different positions that you can try out with your partner.
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Download your FREE report: The 15 Best Techniques In KamaSutra at www.TheKamaSutraOnline.com
When it comes to love making and sexual intercourse, no matter when and how you do it, it always has the same concept, which is to put the penis into a vagina and move it in and out until one partner gets an orgasm.
So how couples make their love making more interesting? Many couples like to mix up their sexual routines not by changing what they are doing but how they are doing it. In short, they change their sexual positions.
When trying out different positions in love making, you will be able to create the excitement and passion that are necessary for a steamy sex with your lover. Sometimes when couples are together for some time, they tend to stick to the same old boring positions again and again.
Do not be embarrassed to ask your partner to try out new sexual positions and techniques with you. Your partner will most likely be happy to try new things out with you if you just initiate it.
Therefore, it is very important for couples to always seek out new positions during love making so as to bring the passion back to the bedroom. Some of the sexual positions will be more stimulating for women, whereby some other positions will be more stimulating for men.
By constantly trying out different positions in love making, it will definitely bring you more exciting times with your partner in the future. If you need more love making positions, you can read up Kama Sutra, which consists of detailed illustrations of the different positions that you can try out with your partner.
About the Author
Download your FREE report: The 15 Best Techniques In KamaSutra at www.TheKamaSutraOnline.com
Powerful Love Aids
Powerful Love Aids by Anthony McDay
The most powerful aspect of adult sex toys is that they cover the whole gamut of sexuality. They can be used alone for personal pleasure. On the other hand, women have the option of an internal vibrator, which gives the g spot a massage and the clitoris at the same time. They need a g-string or a pair of panties to hold them in place, but they can be worn anytime anywhere. Intimate games do not always need a partner. Modern sex toys for women do not even need to be switched just insert them and they work, that is what is called service. New types of adult sex toys stimulate the vagina and anus at the same, some of the have beads attached which rotate and add to the pleasure. A partner can control other types of adult sex toys even when you are out of the house. Vibrating thongs can be controlled from ten feet away!
Not everyone is thrilled with the idea of adult sex toys and some people both men and women find them threatening. If the idea of a vibrator is too full on then start with scented massage oils. Adult sex toys do not have to be mechanical. It is worth taking into account that women who use a vibrator before penetrative sex is more likely to achieve multiple orgasms during sex.
The blood flowing to the area when the g spot is stimulated makes for more powerful orgasms that last longer.
Whilst a vibrator is not necessary to stimulate a g spot the act of increased blood flow increases desire. Even people with a low sex drive find that engorged tissue is more responsive. Whilst there are other ways of finding the g spot, the bendable vibrators make the job easier. One of the problems is that it is not in the exact same place in all women, but once found it will never be neglected again.
Men have traditionally thought that vibrators are aimed at women and whilst historically that was the case, it does not hold true today. Adult sex toys for males come in all shapes and sizes. Masturbation sleeves are a new idea but they can be difficult to clean. Buy a type, which turns inside out for easy cleaning. Some men use a condom, which simplifies the mop up operation.
Men can also use a woman's vibrator to stimulate the prostate. The male p spot can only be stimulated through the walls of the anis as it is between the bladder and the walls of the rectum. An angles T shaped female vibrator will hit the spot straight away, but it may take some finding with a normal vibrator.
Men can insert the vibrator into the anus with a vibrator that has a ring at the base to prevent an accident by pushing the vibrator all the way in. Two or two and a half inches are normally sufficient. Once it is in place switch it on and then angle the head of the vibrator towards your belly button, this should rub against your prostate. A word of warning the prostate controls the flow of semen and urine and it is normal for men to want to pee when the prostate is stroked.
Whatever your pleasure it can be increased by a little imagination and adult sex toys, fun to use and experiment with.
About the Author
For additional sex toys shopping options visit Sex Toys Extensive vibrator resources and shopping options can be found at Vibrators
The most powerful aspect of adult sex toys is that they cover the whole gamut of sexuality. They can be used alone for personal pleasure. On the other hand, women have the option of an internal vibrator, which gives the g spot a massage and the clitoris at the same time. They need a g-string or a pair of panties to hold them in place, but they can be worn anytime anywhere. Intimate games do not always need a partner. Modern sex toys for women do not even need to be switched just insert them and they work, that is what is called service. New types of adult sex toys stimulate the vagina and anus at the same, some of the have beads attached which rotate and add to the pleasure. A partner can control other types of adult sex toys even when you are out of the house. Vibrating thongs can be controlled from ten feet away!
Not everyone is thrilled with the idea of adult sex toys and some people both men and women find them threatening. If the idea of a vibrator is too full on then start with scented massage oils. Adult sex toys do not have to be mechanical. It is worth taking into account that women who use a vibrator before penetrative sex is more likely to achieve multiple orgasms during sex.
The blood flowing to the area when the g spot is stimulated makes for more powerful orgasms that last longer.
Whilst a vibrator is not necessary to stimulate a g spot the act of increased blood flow increases desire. Even people with a low sex drive find that engorged tissue is more responsive. Whilst there are other ways of finding the g spot, the bendable vibrators make the job easier. One of the problems is that it is not in the exact same place in all women, but once found it will never be neglected again.
Men have traditionally thought that vibrators are aimed at women and whilst historically that was the case, it does not hold true today. Adult sex toys for males come in all shapes and sizes. Masturbation sleeves are a new idea but they can be difficult to clean. Buy a type, which turns inside out for easy cleaning. Some men use a condom, which simplifies the mop up operation.
Men can also use a woman's vibrator to stimulate the prostate. The male p spot can only be stimulated through the walls of the anis as it is between the bladder and the walls of the rectum. An angles T shaped female vibrator will hit the spot straight away, but it may take some finding with a normal vibrator.
Men can insert the vibrator into the anus with a vibrator that has a ring at the base to prevent an accident by pushing the vibrator all the way in. Two or two and a half inches are normally sufficient. Once it is in place switch it on and then angle the head of the vibrator towards your belly button, this should rub against your prostate. A word of warning the prostate controls the flow of semen and urine and it is normal for men to want to pee when the prostate is stroked.
Whatever your pleasure it can be increased by a little imagination and adult sex toys, fun to use and experiment with.
About the Author
For additional sex toys shopping options visit Sex Toys Extensive vibrator resources and shopping options can be found at Vibrators
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